- Watch out for very possessive and controlling guys.
- Monitor his jealousy and insecurity levels.
- Be aware of violence or threats of violence.
- Don't get taken in by the way he cries and rationalizes his behavior.
- Notice if he tries to remove you from public places in order to abuse you.
- Notice if he belittles you all the time.
- Watch how he talks to or about your parents or your friends.
- Be aware of him trying to make you feel guilty.
- Look for patterns.
Tips
- Sometimes, he will accuse you of not loving him. Do not be fooled. This is merely a tactic to make you feel guilty and to stay with him.
- If you tell him that you do not tolerate this behavior and he apologizes one minute and then blames you the next, then he is not sincere. It is time to move on.
- If a man hits you, go. He's got the pattern. There will be a second time, a third time, a fourth time, a hundredth time, until you leave, or die. Get out of there.
- Have a safe place to go away to and it should not be a place he can find you, and should be a place that is neutral, where he has no access.
- When you tell him it's over, make sure to do it in a place where you can be seen, but not necessarily heard, by other people. The last thing you want is to get abused as a result of trying to stop the abuse, and he will be less likely to try anything in a public area.
- Keep a copy of important keys and documents in a place where only you can find them so that if you need to make a quick escape you are not locked in the house and have access to your car and passport etc.
- If you decide to leave him then you must do so and break all ties and communication with him. It is the only way you can successfully move on. He must respect this. He must leave you alone if you request it.
Edit: Oops, sorry for unrelated comment. Obviously isn't relevant to behavior of any current or former Russian officials.
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